The Blog
Loved Before I’m Useful
My whole life I've been a helper. I've always been able to see a need and fulfil it—often before it was even articulated. More often than not, that was met with gratitude and admiration. It made me feel good. It made me feel seen, worthwhile, and loved. So I kept...
The Importance of Goodbyes
Lately, I’ve been reflecting on saying goodbye. It’s something that has been important to me for many years. It’s also something I’ve noticed can make many people feel uncomfortable — so they avoid it. I think we avoid goodbyes because there is sorrow in the exchange....
Dating as Discernment: What Returning to Dating Has Been Teaching Me
Recently, I started dating again. It has been an interesting experience. No, I’m not going to share any harrowing dating stories — they have actually all been relatively pleasant and mature. For this, I’m grateful. It has also made me reflect on how I used to date…...
The Right Thing Is Not Always the Easiest Thing to Do
The Right Thing Is Not Always the Easiest Thing to Do This time two years ago, I made a big decision in my life: to give up teaching regular group fitness classes. To some, this might not sound like a big deal, but for me it was a huge decision. Teaching group fitness...
The Truth About Transformation: Healing, Wholeness & Faith
The truth about transformation is that it’s not pretty. One of the first things my clients will tell you about me is that I’m honest and transparent. I’m not going to sit here and tell you that going on your healing journey with me will be a breeze. It won’t always...
Why Am I So Angry? Understanding the Emotion We’ve Been Taught to Fear
Have you ever found yourself asking, “Why am I so angry?” Maybe it was after an intense conversation, during a moment of overwhelm, or perhaps you just noticed a slow-burning frustration in your day-to-day. Whatever it looked like, anger showed up—and it might have...
Even Superwoman Needs Play Time 💃
As June rolled around, I found myself pausing to reflect — how was I really feeling? The answer surprised me: I wasn’t unhappy. I wasn’t unwell. I wasn’t even doing things I disliked. But I was stressed. Not the bad kind — just a lot of good stress. The kind that...
The Default Dance: How Coping Styles Shape Our Relationships
We All Have a Default We all have ways we respond when conflict or emotional needs show up in our relationships. Most of the time, we don’t even realise we’re doing it. We just default to these automatic, learned behaviours—what we call coping styles in therapy....
Learning to be Me
Something I’ve been learning – am still learning – is how to be unapologetically me. A hard task for a people-pleaser! Something you may or may not know about me is that I am a devout Catholic.
EMOTION REGULATION
Emotion regulation is something that we all do and have done since we could remember. Sometimes we have useful, helpful strategies and other times we don’t. These strategies were often unconsciously learnt when we were very young through co-regulation with our primary...