Have you ever found yourself asking, “Why am I so angry?”
Maybe it was after an intense conversation, during a moment of overwhelm, or perhaps you just noticed a slow-burning frustration in your day-to-day. Whatever it looked like, anger showed up—and it might have made you feel uncomfortable, guilty, or even out of control.
But here’s the thing:
👉🏽 Anger is not bad. It’s not wrong. It’s not a flaw in your personality.
Anger can be a primary adaptive emotion—meaning it’s often our first, protective response to something that doesn’t feel right. And more than that—it’s helpful. It gives us information. It shows us where a boundary was crossed, where we don’t feel safe, or where something needs to change.
Unfortunately, many of us were never taught how to understand or express anger in a healthy way. We confuse it with aggression, or assume we need to push it down in order to stay “calm” or “good.”
But there’s a crucial distinction:
🧠 Anger is an emotion. Aggression is a behaviour.
Feeling angry does not mean we are being aggressive.
And expressing anger does not give us permission to be violent, mean-spirited, or harmful.
In fact, the Working Out Anger workshop explicitly draws this line—we do not condone or encourage aggressive behaviour. Rather, we explore how to recognise, regulate, and respond to anger in ways that are constructive, respectful, and empowering.
Sometimes, anger is clear and connected to the moment. But other times, it may be maladaptive—meaning it’s been triggered by something in the present, but actually stems from an unresolved experience in the past. In these cases, the emotional reaction may feel disproportionate or confusing.
And often, anger isn’t even the first thing we feel.
It might be a secondary emotion, showing up to mask or protect us from something deeper—like fear, sadness, rejection, abandonment, or loneliness.
So instead of asking “What’s wrong with me?”, we can begin to ask:
What might anger be trying to tell you?
🗣 “This is not okay.”
🛡 “I need to feel safer.”
⚠️ “Something important has been overlooked.”
🚫 “That boundary was crossed.”
When we learn how to listen to our anger without becoming overwhelmed by it or acting out destructively, we discover something powerful:
🔥 Anger can be a force for clarity, protection, and positive change.
About the Workshop
Working Out Anger is a unique in-person experience held in Melbourne, where we combine movement, psychological insight, and nervous system support to help you reconnect with your anger in a safe and embodied way.
You’ll learn how to:
✅ Understand anger as a valid, protective emotion
✅ Recognise the difference between anger and aggression
✅ Identify when anger may be secondary or maladaptive
✅ Move through anger physically—not just intellectually
✅ Feel safer with emotional expression
✅ Identify patterns that keep you stuck in reaction or shutdown
✅ Set and honour your emotional boundaries
It’s a space that is trauma-informed, reflective, compassionate, and movement-based—offering a whole-person approach to healing.
Ready to explore anger differently?
If you’ve felt overwhelmed by your anger, or disconnected from it altogether, this workshop is an invitation to come home to yourself—with gentleness and curiosity.
🧘🏽♀️ Working Out Anger
📍 In-person, Melbourne
📆 Runs once a year — upcoming dates announced on the website
🎟 Click here to view and register for the next workshop
You are not too much.
Your anger is not too much.
And you don’t have to navigate it alone.
With warmth and gentleness,
Steph x